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Gay Relationship Advice: Age Gaps in Lgbtq+ Relationships
Many of my LGBTQ counseling clients ask me why they are only attracted to male lover men younger than themselves. If you are happy matchmaking app gay men in their twenties, then this question is not important. It’s like asking “Why do I opt for blondes over brunettes?” My advice is to let yourself enjoy dating whomever interests you (as long as they are over the age of 18).
Age gap relationships are more common than you may grasp. In western countries:
- 1 out of every twelve male/female couples has an age gap of 10 years or more
- that number increase to 25% in male/male couples
- and 15% of female/female relationships
That identical study indicated that age gap partners are more satisfied and more dedicated to each other than partners of similar age–though there is some study that points to a correlation with higher rates of divorce. Research also shows that couples with an age gap of less than ten years are happier than those with an age gap greater than ten years. You can uncover more details on these stats on this episode of the podcast I Love You Too, by Psychotherapist, Virtual dating Coach, Couples Counselor Jessica Engle,
When I was unattached, in my mid to late 20’s, my search filters on Tinder and Grindr always ended at age 55. I don’t reflect there’s anything incorrect with dating outside of your age as long as you’re both legal adults and mature enough to operate a relationship.
Plus, I’m sure there’s more than a not many of you reading this article – myself included – with a zaddy/daddy kink. Then there’s chronophilia, defined as having the sexual preference for the elderly. Honestly, who cares what your preference is or what makes your heart skip a beat as drawn-out as it’s protected for both partners.
We, especially as homosexual people, face so many hardships for loving who we love.
So, why give another same-sex attracted couple any sort of grief?
A modern docuseries showing on Channel 4 UK explores relationships that are out of the norm.
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Gay Relationship Advice: Navigating Age-Gap Relationships
I’ve been an LGBTQ+ Affirmative Therapist for nearly ten years, and quite often, the topic of age differences comes up with my single queer-identified male clients and quite often is offer in the same-sex couples or families I work with. Here are some of my thoughts and ideas in the establish of some gay relationship directions.
Age differences in gay men in a romantic relationship is a very common phenomenon but is still one that often raises questions or concerns in my clients as a topic and sometimes requires some navigation in gay couples therapydue to the unique relationship dynamics involved.
Find our more about what therapy for gay men is like with me here.
If you're curious about your relationship, I just created anLGBTQ+ Relationship Quiz to support queer couples identify blindspots and growth points and to commemorate strengths. It's totally free and I'll email you a free 15 page PDF breakdown of your results.
One of the things this quiz looks at is 'balance' which is all to do with dynamics just prefer age differences, that can sometimes cause a relationship to strife
“Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse” is a column by Kai Cheng Thom to help you exist and thrive in a challenging world. Have a question for Kai? Email askkai@dailyxtra.com.
Dear Kai,
We’re a same-sex attracted male couple, aged 23 and 45 years aged respectively—call us Chicken (the younger guy) and Hawk (the older guy). We met on Grindr a couple years ago.
Hawk: I make a very solid salary as a marketing director, and I’m supporting Chicken financially as he goes through university. We also live together in my condo. I deeply, truly love Chicken, and I want nothing but the best for him—I know our age difference is fairly spacious, but I feel that we are soulmates. I would never want to take advantage of him, and I’ve let Chicken know that he should never feel that he “owes” me anything just because of our financial situation. I have never been happier in my life, but some of my friends are reacting quite badly to our relationship—they say our age difference makes them uncomfortable and that I’m cradle-robbing, so to speak. One friend has even dropped me over it. I’m quite hurt about that, honestly. When I was in